A Reality Show Life

This is one of those interesting stories that has larger meanings than most folks might think on. Golfing stud Rory McIlroy, according to the media, broke up with Danish tennis player Caroline Wozniacki, with this act being the last dealbreaker.

North Irish golfer Rory McIlroy finally split with his girlfriend of two years, Danish tennis player Caroline Wozniacki, reportedly after Wozniacki tweeted an unflattering picture of him. The pair had been going through rocky times recently.

A photo of the PGA champion sleeping with his mouth agape was the final straw, according to the Irish Independent. One source said, ”Rory was very upset by it and even Serena Williams pointed out — albeit in a joking way — it was a pretty mean thing to do.”

One fellow posted this article on his Facebook page, and I wasn’t surprised to see all of the comments – including from men – that Rory was a sissy (I substituted a kind word for a not-so-kind version). My opinion differs, and to the point where I would deem this chick to be a snotty, self-absorbed, little wretch. The Idiocracy has become so fixated on the world of Reality TV that they can no longer disconnect from the farcical world of mass-market entertainment long enough to respect that the highly personal acts and lives of others around them are not entertainment for the public at large. In the moral sense, these acts are to be kept private unless express permission to the contrary is obtained from the person whose life is being revealed. Taking a very personal moment and making it very public, especially when Rory is a celebrity, is childish and well below the line. Those who think it is a harmless act obviously don’t cherish their own privacy and therefore think that no one else deserves a discreet life free from the mobs of exhibitionists.

The crux of the article pissed some people off because it came off as a pregant-and-barefoot-in-the-kitchen remark, though I don’t think it was intended that way.

Golf legend Gary Player felt the need to add his two cents about the relationship to ESPN. He said, “If you’re a young man like Rory, you can’t play with worries. You can’t have managerial problems, you can’t have women problems. You’ve got to be out there and have a free mind. And that’s why Arnold [Palmer], Jack [Nicklaus] and I won something like 55 majors between us. Because we had three wives that were very, very special.”

He continued, “He’s got to find himself a wife that’ll help him, actually almost dedicate her life to him being a success. And that’s hard to find today, because women are extremely independent today. It’s a very different time than when we were around.”

I don’t think this remark is as chauvinistic as it appears. I believe that Mr. Player is more or less advocating that professional golfing is a very demanding profession and only a very small group of men can compete as the best in the world. To do so takes a relationship – whether man or woman – where one spouse is always the guardian of the other’s back. No petty distractions or unnecessary emotional drama should distract from the game. Tiger Woods immediately comes to mind, and I am sure that story the object of Mr. Player’s commentary. When two people are in a relationship, the ultimate support comes from one another’s unequivocal trust and dedication to the success the other.

Rory has had a terrible time with his game in recent months, with  life full of legal problems and female complications. I’m sure he was under advisement by many to ditch the dingbat and get back to focusing on his livelihood.