{"id":344680,"date":"2018-01-20T13:56:33","date_gmt":"2018-01-20T12:56:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/newswire\/consenting-to-normal\/"},"modified":"2018-01-20T13:56:33","modified_gmt":"2018-01-20T12:56:33","slug":"consenting-to-normal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/newswire\/consenting-to-normal\/","title":{"rendered":"Consenting to Normal"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<p><span class=\"wf_caption\" style=\"display: block; max-width: 640px; width: 100%;\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.truth-out.org\/images\/images_2018_01\/2018_0119metoo.jpg\" alt=\"Women attend a #metoo rally infant of the Trump International Hotel on December 9, 2017, in Columbus Circle, New York City. (Photo: Andrew Lichtenstein \/ Corbis via Getty Images)\" width=\"640\" style=\"width: 100%; margin: auto;\"\/><span style=\"text-align: left; margin-top: 3px; display: block;\">Women attend a #Metoo rally in front of the Trump International Hotel on December 9, 2017, in Columbus Circle, New York City. (Photo: Andrew Lichtenstein \/ Corbis via Getty Images)<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>In the #MeToo moment, the policing of those who speak up about varying forms of sexual violence and harm remains: The good victim\/bad victim, real victim\/fake victim paradigm has not gone away; it has merely shifted. And even then, not by much.<\/p>\n<p>The significance of #MeToo was that it highlighted how so many of us have been affected by different forms of sexual violence, rupturing the notion that sexual violence only happens between a small and silent minority. It showed how deeply sexual violence is embedded into so many different interactions, workplaces, industries and our culture as a whole, operating in plain sight all along. While many already knew this through personal experience, it has still been a noteworthy time because of how publicly many survivors have been sharing their stories and demanding to be heard. However, while many claim to support the sentiments expressed by #MeToo, some remain steadfast in the belief that in order for sexual violence to count, it must be exceptionally and violently clear-cut. It must be\u00a0real\u00a0sexual violence, real rape, real rapists, real victims: otherwise, it&#8217;s a distraction, a watering-down, an appropriation, opportunism, a lack of personal responsibility, attention-seeking, or inauthentic.<\/p>\n<p>Over the last week I&#8217;ve seen people writing that &#8220;Grace&#8221; and her account of her experiences with Aziz Ansari &#8220;cheapen&#8221; the #MeToo movement and what actual rape victims go through.\u00a0It was just a bad date that she regretted. Why didn&#8217;t she just leave then? I&#8217;ve heard people say that she didn&#8217;t know what she wanted, but after the fact, was unhappy with what she got. I&#8217;ve also been seeing people say that because they believe Grace is white, her narrative is one of privilege and is therefore, suspect (a position I find harmful, not because I care what race she is, but&#8230;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.truth-out.org\/opinion\/item\/43269-consenting-to-normal\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Women attend a #Metoo rally in front of the Trump International Hotel on December 9, 2017, in Columbus Circle, New York City. (Photo: Andrew Lichtenstein \/ Corbis via Getty Images) In the #MeToo moment, the policing of those who speak up about varying forms of sexual violence and harm remains: The good victim\/bad victim, real [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[519],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-344680","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-newswire"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/344680","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=344680"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/344680\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=344680"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=344680"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/rinf.com\/alt-news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=344680"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}